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I can't believe it. I met a woman who I fell inlove with. She is a doctor, and her friends are doctores. When I happened to mention that I am EHS, they all pretty much gazed at me and said it is Psycological, that there is no evedence that the problems is a physcial one, that there os no hard data regarding it. And all I can say was, But the pain is real! And they said - "oh, we belevie you that you have pain. But is is couased be stress. You should relax". nowm this is the woman I am living with. How can I explain to them that this is real problem? Is there a study I can show them? Is there by now a marker related to EHS? It is so frastrating not to be believed HIllel Ps - I do feel much better re the syptoms. Yet, I still suffer mildly |
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> How can I explain to them that this is real problem?
I'm surprised that nobody has answered this question yet, as over the years I've seen people post links to all sorts of studies on ES, and our very own "files" section has some interesting items. I'd say that anyone who thinks that ES is psychological has not spent much (if any) effort researching it. And medical doctors are notorious for dismissing real illnesses as psychological -- in the last 50 years, doctors have done this for Multiple Sclerosis, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Chemical Sensitivities, and Fibromyalgia. Eventually though, the doctors see the truth -- usually long after everyone else, though... :-( Marc |
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> > Hi everyone, > > I can't believe it. > > I met a woman who I fell inlove with. She is a doctor, and her friends are > doctores. When I happened to mention that I am EHS, they all pretty much > gazed at me and said it is Psycological, that there is no evedence that the > problems is a physcial one, that there os no hard data regarding it. > > And all I can say was, But the pain is real! > > And they said - "oh, we belevie you that you have pain. But is is couased be > stress. You should relax". > > > How can I explain to them that this is real problem? > > Is there a study I can show them? > > Is there by now a marker related to EHS? > > It is so frastrating not to be believed > > > HIllel > > Ps - I do feel much better re the syptoms. Yet, I still suffer > hi hillel, my best advice is don't talk too much about it, don't make much fuss about it and don't discuss it more than absolutely necessary and let them experience in other ways that you are a rational person; and little by little they will come to respect you and probably think " may be she's got a point after all"; by presenting a lot of literature on the topic, i'm afraid their response will rather be "well, she's a little nuts about this". If they should ask you about the problem, use some humour - that has my most successful strategy. best regards from peter (in a way i was lucky, because i got an extensive rash all over my body, which was obvious to everybody) |
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>Not everyone that says it is psyhcological has lived it (yeah problem ofthe soul is right though, well that is all of the population) Relax is still good advice so maybe she's allright.. (plus falling in love may be causeand solution..) Love, Ellen Hillel Wahrman <[hidden email]> wrote: Hi everyone, I can't believe it. I met a woman who I fell inlove with. She is a doctor, and her friends are doctores. When I happened to mention that I am EHS, they all pretty much gazed at me and said it is Psycological, that there is no evedence that the problems is a physcial one, that there os no hard data regarding it. And all I can say was, But the pain is real! And they said - "oh, we belevie you that you have pain. But is is couased be stress. You should relax". nowm this is the woman I am living with. How can I explain to them that this is real problem? Is there a study I can show them? Is there by now a marker related to EHS? It is so frastrating not to be believed HIllel Ps - I do feel much better re the syptoms. Yet, I still suffer mildly Yahoo! Groups Links --------------------------------- Ring'em or ping'em. Make PC-to-phone calls as low as 1ยข/min with Yahoo! Messenger with Voice. [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] |
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We are all victims of this "psychological" pigeonholing by some in our
society. We cannot make believers out of those who refuse to see about anything. All we can do is clearly and with facts, and measurable, hopefully science, speak our truth quietly. Some will believe, some will not. We are not responsible for those. I have found that to take on their doubts is not profitable. Make a difference where you can, and choose your fights carefully. Some of you may not agree, but freedom of choice is a wonderful thing. I have sat by and watched the debate on things not related, I think, to ES. But I have also found useful information in this group. Marc, I am not anyone's judge. That has already been done by another. If there is a problem, I have every faith He is able to explain for me. I can say it is written and guide you back to the eternal wisdom. I am just a fruit inspector, grateful to be in the vineyard. I want to thank you for your openness and willingness to help those of us who suffer the same things as you. I am with you 100 percent regarding the stonewalling of doctors and their choices in dismissing our symptoms. A lot of it is political and lobbyists for the power companies exercise too much power over the public perception of this sensitivity/allergy/disease/condition/ailment. Hillel, so they dont believe you. I would suggest purchasing a meter that you can carry around. And maybe show them when your symptoms occur, but the choice is yours. It is a personal choice how far you wish to go, even with your significant other. I wish you well, and God bless. Peg [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] |
Thank you for all your responses. I want to make it clear. They
dont dismiss my claim that I feel pain when close to a turned on cell phone or other gadget. They Just say that treatment is not in reducing the electric field, since the field is harmful. The reason for the pain is in the head, its emtonal, and should be talked out of there with pcychology. Its hard to argue that stress is not related, it is. But the mechanism of this condition is physical, and we should be able to trust our doctors to search and find physical treatmet. What I resent in some Doctores attetude is the condesending.Heart problems and high blood pressure can be effected by stress. But since there is a biological marker - they are not phsycological. I would add : I feel better emotionally in the past year than since many years, and I do feel better regarding ES. So the fact that one effects the other is not disputed by me H --- In [hidden email], pegpare9@... wrote: > > We are all victims of this "psychological" pigeonholing by some in our > society. > We cannot make believers out of those who refuse to see about anything. All > we can do is clearly and with facts, and measurable, hopefully science, speak > our truth quietly. Some will believe, some will not. We are not responsible > for those. I have found that to take on their doubts is not profitable. Make a > difference where you can, and choose your fights carefully. Some of you may > not agree, but freedom of choice is a wonderful thing. I have sat by and watched > the debate on things not related, I think, to ES. But I have also found > useful information in this group. > Marc, I am not anyone's judge. That has already been done by another. If > there is a problem, I have every faith He is able to explain for me. I can say it > is written and guide you back to the eternal wisdom. I am just a fruit > inspector, grateful to be in the vineyard. I want to thank you for your openness and > willingness to help those of us who suffer the same things as you. I am with > you 100 percent regarding the stonewalling of doctors and their choices in > dismissing our symptoms. A lot of it is political and lobbyists for the power > companies exercise too much power over the public perception of this > sensitivity/allergy/disease/condition/ailment. > Hillel, so they dont believe you. I would suggest purchasing a meter that you > can carry around. And maybe show them when your symptoms occur, but the > choice is yours. It is a personal choice how far you wish to go, even with your > significant other. I wish you well, and God bless. Peg > > > > > [Non-text portions of this message have been removed] > |
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From: [hidden email] [mailto:[hidden email]] On Behalf Of hillelwahrman Thank you for all your responses. I want to make it clear. They dont dismiss my claim that I feel pain when close to a turned on cell phone or other gadget. They Just say that treatment is not in reducing the electric field, since the field is harmful. The reason for the pain is in the head, its emtonal, and should be talked out of there with pcychology. Yes, that is a very common medical attitude (and we have also found it among some of our friends). Human nature is to be unbelieving of something that does not seem to fit with your own life experience and those of people round you, or "common sense": unless there is a general consensus in society that something is true, e.g. everyone believes Madagascar is an island off the east of Africa because it is there on maps, although hardly any of us will have been there and seen it! Medical science is an extremely complicated set of ideas and theories based on centuries of observations and decades of discoveries. Generally, it fits the facts very well. Since "new" diseases rarely appear from nowhere, if something is unexplained, the tendency is to assume they don't exist physically rather than that there is a gap in the theory. Unfortunately ME, MCS and ES are indeed "new" diseases and don't fit well into existing theories. But people always want to be careful about accepting new ideas because there are an awful lot of people out there with plausible ideas and way-out theories about all sorts of things, most of which are complete nonsense. (Somebody suggested to me that people wear metal hats because they are afraid of aliens zapping their brains with radiation...) So I can understand why the sceptics feel that way. I am naturally sceptical myself, but fortunately I saw Sue's ES problem suddenly develop with a clear electrical-related cause, and had gone through the "suspicion barrier" earlier with her MCS symptoms, so it was easier for me. Otherwise, I would have found ES very hard to believe. I can uderstand why your doctor friends feel that way - but hopefully we can gradually persuade them of the real facts! Its hard to argue that stress is not related, it is. But the mechanism of this condition is physical, and we should be able to trust our doctors to search and find physical treatmet. What I resent in some Doctores attetude is the condesending. Heart problems and high blood pressure can be effected by stress. But since there is a biological marker - they are not phsycological. You have highlighted the real problem (also in your earlier post) - there is no clear undisputed biological marker as yet. At the moment there is no test that a doctor can run which will show a person has ES. All he can rely on is a patient's report of their symptoms, and these are notoriously inaccurate. There are some ideas on tests - myelin antibodies, recording brain wave patterns etc. Unfortunately until ES is more widely known and accepted, very few people will want to research into these things, so they will remain undetected, so there won't be a test ... etc.etc. I would add : I feel better emotionally in the past year than since many years, and I do feel better regarding ES. So the fact that one effects the other is not disputed by me Great to hear that. You know what has really happened to you and what has helped you. Obviously you must have been doing something right despite the absence of medical treatment! (Even though I'm afraid some will say, Look, it was all in the mind, it went away by itself... Not much we can do about that, even though people also sometimes recover spontaneously from physically "proven" illnesses like cancer). Hope your recovery is soon complete in every respect. Ian H --- In [hidden email], pegpare9@... wrote: > > We are all victims of this "psychological" pigeonholing by some in our > society. > We cannot make believers out of those who refuse to see about anything. All > we can do is clearly and with facts, and measurable, hopefully science, speak > our truth quietly. Some will believe, some will not. We are not responsible > for those. I have found that to take on their doubts is not profitable. Make a > difference where you can, and choose your fights carefully. Some of you may > not agree, but freedom of choice is a wonderful thing. I have sat by and watched > the debate on things not related, I think, to ES. But I have also found > useful information in this group. > Marc, I am not anyone's judge. That has already been done by another. If > there is a problem, I have every faith He is able to explain for me. I can say it > is written and guide you back to the eternal wisdom. I am just a fruit > inspector, grateful to be in the vineyard. I want to thank you for your openness and > willingness to help those of us who suffer the same things as you. I am with > you 100 percent regarding the stonewalling of doctors and their choices in > dismissing our symptoms. A lot of it is political and lobbyists for the power > companies exercise too much power over the public perception of this > sensitivity/allergy/disease/condition/ailment. > Hillel, so they dont believe you. I would suggest purchasing a meter that you > can carry around. And maybe show them when your symptoms occur, but the > choice is yours. It is a personal choice how far you wish to go, even with your > significant other. I wish you well, and God bless. 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because Yahoo seem to have lost the formatting on some browsers. I have indicated below which paragraphs were Hillel's and which were mine, to make it clearer. Ian _____ From: [hidden email] [mailto:[hidden email]] On Behalf Of Ian Kemp Sent: 31 May 2006 08:44 To: [hidden email] Subject: RE: [eSens] Re: They don't believe me _____ From: [hidden email] [mailto:[hidden email]] On Behalf Of hillelwahrman (Hillel) Thank you for all your responses. I want to make it clear. They dont dismiss my claim that I feel pain when close to a turned on cell phone or other gadget. They Just say that treatment is not in reducing the electric field, since the field is harmful. The reason for the pain is in the head, its emtonal, and should be talked out of there with pcychology. (Ian) Yes, that is a very common medical attitude (and we have also found it among some of our friends). Human nature is to be unbelieving of something that does not seem to fit with your own life experience and those of people round you, or "common sense": unless there is a general consensus in society that something is true, e.g. everyone believes Madagascar is an island off the east of Africa because it is there on maps, although hardly any of us will have been there and seen it! Medical science is an extremely complicated set of ideas and theories based on centuries of observations and decades of discoveries. Generally, it fits the facts very well. Since "new" diseases rarely appear from nowhere, if something is unexplained, the tendency is to assume they don't exist physically rather than that there is a gap in the theory. Unfortunately ME, MCS and ES are indeed "new" diseases and don't fit well into existing theories. But people always want to be careful about accepting new ideas because there are an awful lot of people out there with plausible ideas and way-out theories about all sorts of things, most of which are complete nonsense. (Somebody suggested to me that people wear metal hats because they are afraid of aliens zapping their brains with radiation...) So I can understand why the sceptics feel that way. I am naturally sceptical myself, but fortunately I saw Sue's ES problem suddenly develop with a clear electrical-related cause, and had gone through the "suspicion barrier" earlier with her MCS symptoms, so it was easier for me. Otherwise, I would have found ES very hard to believe. I can uderstand why your doctor friends feel that way - but hopefully we can gradually persuade them of the real facts! (Hillel) Its hard to argue that stress is not related, it is. But the mechanism of this condition is physical, and we should be able to trust our doctors to search and find physical treatmet. What I resent in some Doctores attetude is the condesending. Heart problems and high blood pressure can be effected by stress. But since there is a biological marker - they are not phsycological. (Ian) You have highlighted the real problem (also in your earlier post) - there is no clear undisputed biological marker as yet. At the moment there is no test that a doctor can run which will show a person has ES. All he can rely on is a patient's report of their symptoms, and these are notoriously inaccurate. There are some ideas on tests - myelin antibodies, recording brain wave patterns etc. Unfortunately until ES is more widely known and accepted, very few people will want to research into these things, so they will remain undetected, so there won't be a test ... etc.etc. (Hillel) I would add : I feel better emotionally in the past year than since many years, and I do feel better regarding ES. So the fact that one effects the other is not disputed by me (Ian) Great to hear that. You know what has really happened to you and what has helped you. Obviously you must have been doing something right despite the absence of medical treatment! (Even though I'm afraid some will say, Look, it was all in the mind, it went away by itself... Not much we can do about that, even though people also sometimes recover spontaneously from physically "proven" illnesses like cancer). Hope your recovery is soon complete in every respect. Ian H --- In [hidden email], pegpare9@... wrote: > > We are all victims of this "psychological" pigeonholing by some in our > society. > We cannot make believers out of those who refuse to see about anything. All > we can do is clearly and with facts, and measurable, hopefully science, speak > our truth quietly. Some will believe, some will not. We are not responsible > for those. I have found that to take on their doubts is not profitable. Make a > difference where you can, and choose your fights carefully. Some of you may > not agree, but freedom of choice is a wonderful thing. I have sat by and watched > the debate on things not related, I think, to ES. But I have also found > useful information in this group. > Marc, I am not anyone's judge. That has already been done by another. If > there is a problem, I have every faith He is able to explain for me. I can say it > is written and guide you back to the eternal wisdom. I am just a fruit > inspector, grateful to be in the vineyard. I want to thank you for your openness and > willingness to help those of us who suffer the same things as you. I am with > you 100 percent regarding the stonewalling of doctors and their choices in > dismissing our symptoms. A lot of it is political and lobbyists for the power > companies exercise too much power over the public perception of this > sensitivity/allergy/disease/condition/ailment. > Hillel, so they dont believe you. I would suggest purchasing a meter that you > can carry around. And maybe show them when your symptoms occur, but the > choice is yours. It is a personal choice how far you wish to go, even with your > significant other. I wish you well, and God bless. 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